So one clear Friday morning, I started my day by checking my fave blogs and was very excited when I checked Necole Bitchie, the Mother to all sites that gossip blog. Well there was a post from the The Fly Guy and I was hella excited (yes you read correct, I said hella) to be engulfed in his intellectual thoughts on relationships. The Fly Guy is something like a urban love guru for those who may not know. This entry was entitled "We all lie in relationships" and lies that women tell were 1. I'm not mad, 2. I had sex with X amount of people and 3. I don't care how much money you have. That last one didn't sit too well with me. Where in the hell did this come from? If I could just go to the 40's and 50's, weren't men suppose to be breadwinners? Wasn't the female role to be a housewife who keeps the house in tip top, rears the children and keep the Breadwinner well fed and f**k? Excuse the choice words. But still hear me out, the concept is still very much alive today. But let me get back to the idea that women are always in safety goggles, steel toe heels with pick ax in tow. Maybe these women are not looking for love but security. With a big enough back account, anyone can love someone. Maybe these women feel that true love is dead so why not get a unlimited spending piece of plastic to slide into a "In" season bag to carry on a arm dipped in diamonds. But my best guess would have to be because we are expected to. I'm a Freshmen in college. One day last semester, my professor let us have a little fun. The sexes split up and we had to stereotype each other. For us women, we got the usual: emotional, gossipy, desperate to get married and so on. My professor commented on a stereotype that popped up that I wasn't expecting: gold diggers. She said that that one stereotype has become more common these past few years. My thoughts are that we live in a culture and society were what a man can bring to the table are equivalent to his worth. Is it me or don't men care about the Green Elixer just as much? So aren't men just gold digger seekers? When men attempt to spark up a convo with a woman, he talks about what he has, what he drives, what he does and all that he can give or do for her. Is that all you can bring to the table of relationship? No convo? No laughs? Just a few new clothes or cars. Is that what relationships are based upon now? I'm attempting to stray away from stereotype people. I can only speak for myself not the entire female race because we all desire seemingly different things. I don't care about money in a relationship, and I truly mean that. Wasn't Destiny Child have women declaring Independence some odd years back? I'm not looking for a money sign in a Benz. I will gladly take that brother man on the city bus because I'm sitting right behind him. I want someone with goals and a plan. If your heart desires to write or to be a lowly social worker working for the state like me plan to, I'm all for it! Like Langston Hughes wrote "
Hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, life is a broken winged bird that cannot fly".
So in the end, in a sense the housewife and the breadwinners names have evolved to Gold Digger and Gold Digger Seeker. I'm
not saying that the Fly Guy called women in general gold diggers because there are some in my sex but some men love it.
The Gold Digger is wifey, she's a trophy, your worth seems to sky rocket if you got one. It's no different when some men make it in Hollywood, they "upgrade" (?) to a white or an island beauty= no different.
